Healing is not a finish line.
It’s not a neat arc or a milestone you cross when you’ve finally done all the journaling and meditating and forgiving. It doesn’t mean you no longer get triggered. It doesn’t mean you never feel grief. It doesn’t mean you’re immune to your old patterns.
Healing is not perfection.
It’s participation.
It’s the willingness to stay in the process, even when it’s slow.
Even when you stumble.
Even when you wake up on a random Tuesday and wonder why you feel so heavy again.
You don’t have to get everything right to be healing.
You don’t have to do it all at once.
You just have to keep showing up.
Showing up to your feelings.
Showing up to your needs.
Showing up to the version of you who’s still scared, still sad, still trying to believe she’s allowed to rest.
Healing happens in the pause before the reaction.
In the breath before the spiral.
In the moment you say no when you used to say yes, and your hands are shaking but your truth is steady.
Healing happens when you love the part of you that still wants to run.
When you stay in your body during discomfort.
When you choose gentleness, not because it’s easy, but because it’s honest.
And yes, some days you’ll fall back into old patterns.
Some days you’ll forget.
Some days you’ll feel like nothing is changing.
But healing isn’t linear. And it’s not measured by how good you look while doing it.
It’s measured by how present you’re willing to be with yourself—even when you’re messy, even when you’re tired, even when the work feels endless.
So drop the perfection.
Pick up the practice.
Stay in the process.
Because healing doesn’t need you to be flawless.
It just needs you to keep showing up.
What beautiful words and I feel this 100%. Healing is a constant journey of ebbs and flows. I have been healing most of my life and sometimes its excruciating to swim in it but as you so beautifully put - ' just keep showing up'. When the pain is just to much - Breathe.. and if you spiral breathe again. Needed to read this today so thanks you.