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It’s Okay to Not Want to Fix Yourself All the Time

Your struggle is not your identity.

Apr 18, 2025
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You’ve done the work.
You’ve unpacked the patterns.
You’ve named the wounds.

You’ve read the books, journaled the thoughts, and had the hard conversations.

You’ve healed so much.

And still, there are days when something rises.

An old trigger.
A familiar fear.
A wave of sadness.
A part of you you thought you’d outgrown.

Your first instinct? Fix it.

Analyse it. Work through it. Turn it into content, insight, or progress.

But what if this time… you didn’t?

What if it’s okay to not want to fix yourself all the time?

What if healing isn’t always doing but being?

What if rest is the most honest response?

What if letting the feeling pass without naming, claiming, or solving is the most sacred move?

You are not a constant improvement project.

You are a human being in motion.

You don’t need to have a therapeutic reason for every emotion.

You don’t need to transform every wound into wisdom immediately.

Sometimes, what you need most is permission to just be.

To say :

This is rising.
And I’ll let it rise.
And I don’t need to master it today.

That’s not apathy.

That’s presence.

That’s self-trust.

And that’s what creates the space for organic, gentle transformation—not because you demanded it, but because you allowed it.

Let yourself be.

Not better.

Just you.

For now.

That’s enough.

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How to Not Be Upset by the Misdeeds of Others.
"You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius
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Why do we all avoid the hard truth about ourselves?
"The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool." - Richard Feynman
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a simple guide to understanding thought attachment.
The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.
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