The Wisdomous : Your toxic traits and words!
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This past week I shared these words:
The motivational texts and quotes we read daily can be both uplifting and damaging. Be mindful and consider the context.
Similarly to how the improper dose of medicine or food can be poisonous.
Words that might inspire us can also isolate and depress us.
I meant it when I typed them. You've probably seen Instagram photographs with a wolf in the background and motivational statements like "Walk Alone," "You are alone in this," "Don't be a sheep," or any of the other cliche motivational quotes. I'm not knocking them; I kept a lot of them when I was younger, but I've since realised that a quotation is merely a collection of words that we give power to by our actions and interpretation.
I have many shortcomings, but I believe in the concept of putting my money where my mouth is, and this is the main takeaway: are we simply ingesting words without making changes in our lives? Are we taking into account the context in which they emerge? Have we considered their effects if we send those quotes to people we care about?
I've been collecting and writing quotes for the past 13 years, and I know how powerful words can be, but it's a two-edged sword.
The same words that can motivate us can alienate and depress us if we are not paying attention.
If you’re a person that has very high emotional walls up because of past incidents, I hope that you find peace in the now and if you need more time then in the future and I hope that you can allow yourself to live your life fully and be less cautious and afraid of what could be.
Building things that will matter in the long run.
On reading: In the end, it’s not how many books or stories we’ve read that matters, but how they’ve influenced our lives.
All our toxic traits explained: Some are more toxic than others. We can, for instance, develop narcissistic self-perception. In addition, we develop insecure attachment habits and adopt a victim attitude. To survive, we engage in several harmful behaviours. However, if we truly want to be happy in life and love, we must let go of them and accept something new.
Balance Consistency and Rest: We know consistency is king. But everyone can use a break before moving to the next goal and starting the focus over again.
A: The Growth Mindset is the belief that one can achieve more than one has previously. It's a transformation in a person's mindset in which difficult situations are viewed as challenges to be overcome rather than insurmountable obstacles.
"the belief that you can cultivate and improve upon your abilities through practice and effort.”- Carol Dweck
Here are 4 steps to developing a Growth Mindset from Dweck's research:
1.First, hear your Fixed Mindset's “voice.”
When you have a challenge in front of you, listen to how you respond to the challenge. The Fixed Mindset will tell you it's a bad idea and you need to avoid failure or make a mistake.
2.Realize that you have a choice
You have the choice to listen to the Fixed Mindset or embrace Growth. Remember to have full autonomy over how you interpret your setbacks and the challenges in front of you. When you encounter a setback, you can choose to see it as a failure or an opportunity to grow and improve.
3.Respond with your Growth Mindset "voice."
Once you recognize you have a choice, decide to respond with the Growth Mindset.
4.Follow through with the Growth Mindset.
Put actions behind your Growth Mindset. Don't be disgruntled with setbacks - see them as opportunities. Dedicate yourself to growth.
Developing a Growth Mindset is not something that happens overnight or is a one-time decision. Instead, it's a way of thinking about yourself and the world that takes time to develop.
The goal isn't to achieve perfection. The goal is to make progress towards growth consistently.
Love's gonna pick you up by Brian Tyree Henry
Singing for Days by Mike Vallas ft Sandra Hesch
Enjoy life by Air
All VIVO Soundtracks by Alex Lacamoire and Lin Manuel Miranda
Nowhere special: You'd like this indie; it's heartbreakingly lovely. After the child's mother abandoned them soon after giving birth, John has dedicated his life to raising Michael, his 4-year-old son. So when John learns that he only has a few months to live, he sets out to find Michael a new, perfect family, determined to protect him from the horrors of the situation.
Meat me halfway: I'm a simple man who adores those gorgeous thighs, lovely legs, and a chest to die for. Yes, that is me expressing my appreciation for chicken, which may explain why I cannot go vegan. This film investigates how to reduce meat consumption while maintaining a healthy balance.
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