The Wisdomous

The Wisdomous

Emotions

Why expressing pain isn't enough to heal
Healing requires changing your relationship to the pain, not just expressing it.
 • Ivan Nyagatare
Can work truly numb the sting of loss?
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” — C.S. Lewis.
 • Ivan Nyagatare
Why do we cry when we are angry, not just when we are sad?
“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” — Malcolm Forbes
 • Ivan Nyagatare
Why do we feel most lonely in the moments right after socializing?
“The eternal loneliness of the human being is never more sharply felt than after pleasure." — Gustave Flaubert
 • Ivan Nyagatare
The Beauty of Arguments
The arguments that stay with you are rarely about the thing you're arguing about.
 • Ivan Nyagatare
Why contradiction is not a flaw but a feature
A guide to living with paradox
 • Ivan Nyagatare
Being seen is not the same as being known
We traded the village for privacy, the neighborhood for efficiency, and the community for individual achievement.
 • Ivan Nyagatare
How to apologize in a way that actually means something
To apologize well is to put the other person's pain above your discomfort. Almost no one does this on the first try
The 7 types of silences in relationships and which ones heal
Not all silences are equal. Some heal. Some harm. Some slowly hollow out everything you thought was solid between you and another person.
 • Ivan Nyagatare
Why the quiet we fear is often the quiet that restores us
On silence, witnessing, and resisting the urge to explain
 • Ivan Nyagatare
How questioning your emotions can save you unnecessary suffering
Emotional intensity is information not the truth
 • Ivan Nyagatare
How to find time for what you love when you're tired!
Discipline gets you to the door; love gets you through it.
 • Ivan Nyagatare
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